Letting go of something you are afraid to lose is one of the hardest things we have to work with (along with allowing something in that you are scared of – really a mirrored image of the very same thing).  Our process of letting something go can take days, weeks, years.  In the end, when we are ready…  we let that person or idea or object go when we are fully ready.  And as we do so, a deep calm ensues and we recognize, once on the other side, all of the weight and thick heaviness we’ve been carrying through that time is no longer there.  The pain of letting go is replaced by a spaciousness that allows us to feel our own basic goodness and the basic goodness of that person, object or idea in its simplicity.